Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Am I screwed?

Recently visited 4 diff mls.

2 hj, 2 fs with condoms. No kissing.

What are the chances of me getting hpv or syphilis and infection my wife?

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

HPV is possible as condoms do not provide much protection.

Syphilis is far less likely unless one of the whores you fucked actually had a chancre.

What do the ulcers look like? Photo?

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Sorry don't have any photos yet. But it kinda looks like this on her vulva(image was taken from another thread here)



But she said it's been really itchy a few days ago although not as much today.

She gunna go test soon.

What do you bros do? What reason should I give?

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

It could be genital herpes too. I am in same situation. Worried that I will transmit to wife. Now I freak out whenever I need to have sex with her

There’s no valid reason. I am struggling with it myself

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Sigh. Do you have any signs of ulcers or whatever on your genitals?

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When I had my first outbreak 10 months ago, I had one blister at the base of my penile shaft. The part normally not covered by condom.

To be honest if I didn’t visit wls I may think i accidentally scratched it or maybe underwear abrasion etc. but because I visited wls so I went to check and it got swabbed and confirmed as hsv 2

Since then I have been on daily valtrex to reduce the risk of transmission. And I have had zero symptoms so far, it could be due to the valtrex or not I am not sure.

The thing is transmission can happen with or without symptoms for hsv and hpv.

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Yeah sorry to hear that.. At least you have it under control and your wife doesn't know?

Keep it that way and stop punting... Man I'm devastated if she finds out. Afraid she'll leave me. Sad.

I really hope it's a yeast infection or some sort and not STD... But chances probably not to my liking...

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HI Bro... whatever it is... just dont admit. Once admitted, u are dead.

Rgds,
James

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Yeah, I don't think it's hsv, I don't seem to have any symptoms of it.

Hpv takes 1 to 3 months as well right for symptoms to appear?

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

That's Herpes ie HSV.

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It is under control but like I said it makes no difference, most transmissions happen when there are no symptoms. Punt or not won’t make a difference already.

In your case, your wife has hsv herpes for sure looking at the photo

You may have had no symptoms - that is normal for most people.

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Hpv normally has no visible symptoms. Only comes up during Pap smears

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That’s a problem. I have no idea how to address it if my wife gets it. Is there any creative story. It’s genital herpes, there is no way of getting it other than sex

No matter wat this is a really difficult situation u are in. If she get tested and confirm its herpes, she will question the fk out of u. She will ask u to get tested and maybe deduce on who got it first. I got tested a few mths ago and got a clean sheet but after hearing ur story i think this is enuff to quit the scene for good. Even hj can get std as catbathing is nt safe also.

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No way... I am fucked. Only itchy, no pain or anything,still herpes?

I don't even have any ulcers or anything.

If she tests positive I don't know how to explain.

Surely it can be something else? Yeast infection or some other bacterial infection?

Bro who knows maybe ur wife is playing outside as well?

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It's very unlikely...

Sigh. I know I fucked up.. Wish I could turn back time.

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Same situation as me. There is no turning back. I live in fear and guilt everyday. I look at websites for cure everyday

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It will be clear who got it first. As she will likely be having her first outbreak and no antibodies on blood test but mine will have coz it’s been 10 months. There is no qn there. It’s one way traffic

Either I lose everything. My wife my kids or I hope she is forever asymptomatic if she gets it or I hope I won’t transmit for the next 5 years until there is a cure or some medication that blocks transmission (like hiv)

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Bro, like i said before. Just don't admit. Even if it is genital herpes, there is still a possibility that u got it from a public toilet bowl seat. Your penis may touch the seat when u move forward to clean your ass, right? If a herpes infected person used the wc before you, do you think there is a possibility that he can spread the herpes to you? Some doctors may say not possible, some may say possible. No one really knows. Only u yourself know. So just dont admit.

James

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

U cld have got it before u met her. may not be from chionging. no pt trying to find out from where cos like u said it can pass without symptom. maybe ex gf from years ago pass to u n u nv know. if ur wife is reasonable to talk to, u can try this approach

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Nice reasoning

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If U only just begin fooling around, the ulcer is unlikely to come from u especially when U have no symptoms and have protected sex.

Most private clinics have systems or affiliation to labs to offer PCR test for STI and results can be ready in the same day or no more than a week. Just encourage your wife to visit any women's GP for testing. Chicken pox or even yeast infection will result in ulcer too.

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Ya, no symptoms at all for me. I don't punt that much maybe 10 times in 2023.

Had protected sex thrice in 2023. Other than that no sex
from 2020 to 2022 with ml or wl. Although I had BBBJ quite often..... F me for being so horny.

I read that herpes need open wound to do a swab test and blood test is inaccurate is that true?

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Blisters or sore is the best site for sample collection for accurate results. If those are absent, blood test is the only other option. If the exposure is beyond 12 weeks, blood test result is 98% accurate.

Good luck.

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That is not true HPV often shows up as visible warts on the vulva.

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A little too crazy. Never pass to her for a decade of unprotected sex then now suddenly

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How are you now bro? any updates on your situation.

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

depending how long your you married.

just take the blame on yourself that you probably got it years ago.

use the reason that HSV can go dormant for many years before the symptoms start showing.

but you should only say this after your wife got tested and it's positive. thereafter you go test it yourself.

if you are positive, then take the blame and use the above excuse. if it's negative, then you are safe.

Re: Wife has ulcers on vulva
 

Thanks bros for your checking.

Still no outbreak that I can see. Wife hasn't complained about the sores so I don't dare to ask. But getting a pap smear soon so I'm now worried again.