Why do you all cheat?
 

I'm in an healthy relationship but I still have fwb and visit the massage parlours to have my handjob. lol. I do question myself why am I being such a demon and want to just suicide for being such a selfish person.

anyone in the same shoes? healthy relationship but have fwb and visit massage parlours?

For me, im married (sexless, or once in a blue moon sex). Too stressed out with work. So going to massages for the handy and occasional paid sex to relieve steam and get some attention where im not getting at home..

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But do you feel guilty when you are back home looking at your wife?

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Same problem here. Yes the guilt is always there. I try to use the guilt to lower my frequency of cheating.

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So you have a good relationship going on.. but this temptation is like an addiction?

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I can't say my relationship is good... It's pretty rocky and with work and family stress with young kid is worse... I'm addicted to going spa/ktv and finding SYT who give me the attention and service i need... Without these sexcapades i cfm go crazy and maybe divorce by now liao

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This word "sexcapades" I can totally relate to this! Thx for sharing!

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My girlfriend is very religious, been with her since secondary school and can’t touch her at all. Usually i only go out on dates with her to have dinner and nothing else getting tired of it already. Normally i just go for massage with hj.

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So you have to wait until married then she'll give it to you?

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This is already a warning sign. What makes you think you can continue to touch her after marriage, after the kids are born? To her, a non-sexual relationship is acceptable to you before marriage. Why will a non-sexual relationship be a problem to you AFTER marriage? It was never a factor/necessity in your relationship with her and you can accept it.

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That's why sian Bro. Not sure why i even get together with someone from Church. Back then younger never think too much get girlfriend already happy

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Before marriage still can change gf. The years together will be holding you back from leaving her but think of the years remaining in your life... which number is greater?

To her, pre-marital sex is a sin. It is idealistic for her to think everything will be fine after marriage. She may not even like sex as you are likely to be an inexperienced lover. There is also a warning sign as she places her religion above you and you are unlikely to be a Christian. Quite easy to meet another guy who places religion first in Church. Will your current sacrifices really lead to marriage? Your children will also all be Christians. Can accept?

Nothing wrong with her religion but if you don't hold the same views, there will be multiple clashes coming up in future.

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Before u buy car, sure must test drive right? This one is wife leh, life long partner.

Imagine she only give u sex for baby.then after than 0 sex for 40years until the day u die?

Think carefully of what u want in life

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I don't exactly have a religious gf
but she treats sex as a mood based thing
so with all that stress and work life balance issue.. sex hardly happens.
how do you feel each time after the massage with hj?
do you question yourself.. and be like "damn what have I done"
or do you tell yourself something like "yeah that was worth it.. now back to being a nice boyfriend again.. no sex ahead 🙂"

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Lol, I am a nice boyfriend and I have my own sexcapades.
If I need psych help, I'll probably not be able to even survive the current relationship.
Thanks for replying anyway, you sound like a troublesome person.

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Bro nkyc and all other bros,
I'm kinda of facing similar situation like nkyc. So need you guys advice.
Been having sexless marriage for past 4 years. Lost the feel. Anyone faced same issue?
Recently fall in love with a syt ML. Both of us been very loving and it's like back to younger days when u fall in love feeling. Both of us always longing for to meet each o
My problem is, whats next?

Continue the affair or the marriage??

Bro ,

I m sure u know better .

Very low probability that u ll be together with her becos of her history and probably her natural instinct . We say once a ML/FL always a ML/FL .

Snap out of it bro .

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Thank you bro. Appreciate your advice.
Why you say once a ML, always a ML?

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I am married for 6 years now and I'm still visiting home based MLs for the massage and HJ. At the start felt some guilt but after so long, I take it as a nice treat for myself once a month kind of thing.

The baseline is never involve feelings with the ML. Just go there, massage, get a release and that's it. Whatever happens in that room, stays in that room. I don't go home thinking about the ML often or even fantasize "what-if".

I don't hire prostitutes or fuck around with other women. It is always just massage and HJ.

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I guess what that bro is trying to say is that ML/FL are into that line of business for ONE purpose and ONE purpose only, MONEY.

If you read some other threads in SBF, you will read many stories about ML and potentially how much money they can earn from us. Their monthly income may even be 4 months salary of some bros here.

They are not here to look for bf or potential husband. Even though there are rare stories of that happening but you may end up constantly second guessing her whereabouts and whenever she go out with friends, you will suspect whether she is going out with another guy, etc...

All in all, it is not worth it.

If you have issues with in your marriage, better consult a marriage counsellor or something like that

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Hey bro can you share with me that Home-based massage via pm? address and pricelist please.. much appreciated ☺️🙏

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Actually it will depends on your definition of cheating...to seek relief from the built up (sexual) tension, isn't it normal?

I love my wife very much, we enjoy fucking (or at least she make me think so by complaining I don't give her enough love...then how? make more love lor) but sometimes it cannot happen; we both do shiftwork sometimes; there was a few months we have to arrange to eat near her work place just so we can meet.

There was once I was damn horny in bed (no I didn't demand, she just felt the hard-on) but she was so tired; she fell asleep giving me a handjob. In this case, do I DIY? No, I just hug her and sleep.

Sure, I can DIY but it is not really satisfying isn't it, so I guess I belong to those that as long as I get to fuck my wife, I don't bother to eat out.

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Thank bro hazyones23.
Totally understand. Really much appreciation for your post. But sometimes it's emotional.
Once I also thought I'm rationale and logically.
Any good suggestions to break up without any feeling?

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Brother we are in the same boat, I feel your pain. Like u, I was also obsessed with a ML, I visited her weekly, bgt her dinners, took her out to buy branded goods. She told me she don’t do fj and I am the only one she is considering...ask me for expensive gifts etc which I relented..i invested a lot of time, effort & $$ into this only to discover she provides fj to other samsters who probably paid a fraction of what i put in..best part is I never got anything more than hj/cbj from her. My advise to you is, treat her exactly like a ML, nothing else. Visit her for fun, never believe her words & let it go. U will b happier man. Cheers

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In fact everyone cheats. Whether mls, fls, married man or those who have bfs or gfs. Some for money, no love or sex, lust or partner cannot give satisfaction on bed. There are maybe other reasons. So only those who cheat knows why.

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Gentlemen, its a game. However you have to understand the rules and there are prices to be paid. If your conscience gets pricked its a good sign; you still retain some semblence of “decency”. You can drink the milk but don’t bring the cow home. Always pay for the milk. Nobody cares what reason you have in wanting to drink outside milk. Frankly the cows don’t give a damn and either do we. Thats your private business and no need to seek justification from anyone. You are adults who are free to choose whatever actions deemed lawful in the society you live in. Separate monogamy from love it’ll help you a lot. Love = Monogamy is an ideal, real life is seldom ideal. If your life goal is not to have a family, don’t feel obligated to marry or have a gf just because the rest do. Stay single and fuck around. If you want a family there is a steeper price to pay. Its natural :you want more u have to pay more. No matter what exercise caution, protect yourself (condoms & testing) and keep it low key. Don’t be led solely by the desire and lose clarity. Cheong solo. Singapore society is unforgiving and can be pretentious. If people discover your deviant ways, they will likely capitalize on it.

Wah piang bro. Your words are wise

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i do it for the excitement and to get feeling of "I am still attractive".


I have a fuck buddy, we are both married, both in our 40s, she does not have sex with husband, so fuck with me. i have regular sex with wife, but not enough for me, also she complains alot and talks alot when sex, not enjoy it with me.

Our respective spouses do not know we are cheating or have sex outside our marriages.

I just want another pussy to fuck, also this fuck buddy treating me like boyfriend/side dick which i enjoy. its sometimes tiring to lie and make up stories to able to meet up with fuck buddy, also some constant worry will get found out... but this pussy is great...


life is short, dont get caught, enjoy

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I read the stories and I laugh...not at you. =)

Been in sammy for so long, I see the stories repeat over and over again.

Sigh...that is our life.

I'm in a sexless marriage too.... dead fish marriage? heh.

Life.......:D:rolleyes:;)

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I cheated to enjoy BBBJ which my wife don't give:p