[Siriusam]

Read all 41 pages in one go. First, I must commend TS for a wonderful and heartfelt story. Can definitely feel the emotions in the words. Second, I must applaud all the fantastic comments and advice from SBF bros here. Really touched my heart to witness such a matured crowd in here.

I want to say to TS that you're just 'courting death'. Of course I'm saying death as a metaphor. I can assure you there will be no closure for you until death comes. You will never be satisfied no matter the outcome. And when judgment day comes, you will understand that you were treading in a battle you can never win. And everything will be too late. You have the power to control this fate if you choose to act responsibly now!

For 9/10 of the story, I was really feeling for you. You managed your emotions well and did your best to stay positive. But to think you're still hanging onto this 1 and 1/2 years past, I really urge you to put down the past and move on. There will be no good coming from this.

Let's face the facts:
1) You can never be together with your SIL. (Even if you divorce with your wife, I can assure you things will NOT be the way you would expect to be. How will society and relatives look at you? Even if you don't care, spare a thought for your SIL? Your kids? Your future kids? Your parents? So there you go, you can NEVER be together with your SIL, no matter how disillusioned you may be.

2) You must ensure that your SIL finds a good man to take care of her, to love her, and protect her. What?? Do you expect her to stick around for the next 5 years, 10 years, in your shadow? Yes, she will age too, and she will hit 30 years old. And what, do you expect her to be hanging on to this secret affair as well? You're married, you don't need to worry, you have a family and you're already settled down. What about her? Spare a thought for her, how are you being fair to her? And if you think you can bring justice to this, go back to point #1.

So what if she decides to BGR with that jerk? Let her have a normal relationship coupled with love, lust and heartbreaks. It's normal, it makes a person. Happiness and sorrow is what makes life special.

3) What closure do you need? To be brutally honest, you're the one not wanting the closure. If you did, you WOULD HAVE already moved on. But since you did not, you're expecting something more AKA closure. Did you want to continue this dark secret affair with your SIL? Did you want her to continue cling onto you and always see you as #1 in her heart? So what if you're the best in her eyes? So what if she goes into a relationship with a guy not even 1/2 as good as you? Please be fair to her, you know you CANNOT give her the life she deserves.

There are a lot of good points by other SBF bros on ego. I know how that feels when all you want is be and continue to be that number one superhero guy in her eyes. But so what?? Wake up!! Go back to point #1 and #2.

You have to wake your fucking ideas up bro. I don't mean to be rude, but it can only be said like that.

J is an amazing girl. Let her have the life and happiness she deserve. The right thing for you to do is to treat her as your sister. Or if you really can't.. treat her as your mom.... you wouldn't want to fuck your mom, do you?