Thank you for the replies. I read through each reply several times.
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Originally Posted by BreakingZero
I went through the same thing so I can understand you. Its not always about the sex but the emotional support and attachment that some FWB give which FLs don't provide.
It won't help sleeping around as it will just feel empty. My advice is try taking sometime off from searching for a replacement. You won't be able to find a FWB with the emotional support so soon but you'll find someone that can give you the emotional support and investment through friends or strangers and it will occur naturally which won't need deep pockets.
What you are searching for is the sense of belonging and importance that a person has in you which I guess you haven't have felt in a long time. Sex was just a bonus on top. You aren't looking for just sex, you're looking for something to fill a void in yourself which can only be fixed by yourself.
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To be clear, in my case she was financially compensated but nowhere near sugardaddy rates. She never asked for more money nor gifts in our 1yr+ time.
It is true that I treated her as an emotionally support as explained in my first post, and someone I looked forward to meeting every week. The sex was great! Sometimes I lasted for only 3minutes, sometimes 30minutes, no complaints from her. We enjoyed the sessions, no matter how they turned out. We just laughed about it and enjoyed the companionship.
I was actually thinking of making a post on the sugardaddy thread to see if there could be someone new, but after reading your reply I think i'll take some time to think about it first. Need a short break before moving on.
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Originally Posted by wc4998
FWB is being use almost in the same as soul mate here. It helps to pen down as usually such topics is hard to share with anyone and keeping it bottle up is not healthy. Go out more and make friends, as sex is not the motivating factor here.
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Won't go as far as soul mate, but yes for the past 1yr+ she was an important support pillar for me. At late 30s, the making new friends part is pretty much over. Colleagues can rarely be considered true friends, and my age group mostly married with small kids a.k.a. family men.
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Originally Posted by sensualkinks
A couple of years ago I ended a rather weird relationship. Kind of painful emotionally. I took quite a while to heal. Not quite the FWB kind cos we never had sex but more like master-slave kind of thing. He works in the same company as I do, several levels above me so technically he is my superior. We often see each other in meetings and team building get-together but never really talk to him much. We are just mere acquaintances. But on several occasions I caught him looking at me. He is considered a prized bachelor in our department for having most of the 5C. Rumours were abound he is gay as he never showed interest in any girls.
The fateful day was just another team building dinner at a function room. I was forced to move to another table due to overcrowding and i was seated next to him as it’s the only empty space. Everything goes as normal and I was a little tipsy. We had a rather good banter throughout the evening and I thoroughly enjoyed conversing with him. Then someone came over to talk to me for about 15 mins. When the person left I turn to him suddenly and caught him looking at his hp. The page showed a collection of whips. He quickly put away his phone but it’s too late. I teased him and jokingly said I could whip him if he want. I didn’t meant it but I was tipsy and kinda swell in the head. Immediately he said yes please anytime I could. I thought he was joking but his expression is all serious. That day was a Friday night. We chat till sat morning, him giving me a crash course about bdsm. Apparently he has a slave fetish and while guys his age engage FLs, he go for mistresses and dominatrixs.
And that’s the start of this weird relationship. We often checked into hotels with me whipping caning him. We even had him wearing a chastity cage to work. Maybe part of me writing this down harbour a tiny thought that he might see this post. Yes he is on this platform. A good whole of 9 months of clandestine fun before we decided to end it all as he decided to go back to his country. That year was the start of the Covid.
I never said it to him before, but I truly enjoy my time with him. No I do not love him but well, as I said it before it’s a rather weird relationship. Mmm, perhaps it’s like owning a cute cat/dog for 9 months before u have to return to its owner? LOL
Anyway it’s just a rant. I have nowhere to let it out except here. Lol
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Thanks for sharing your story. I don't have bdsm kinks, otherwise I will dm you. HAHAHA!