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But still, the heart and the mind never agree. Quote:
That's me being idealistic. Me being realistic, he might freak out and disappear from your life, leaving you heartbroken and confused. Friends who judge you for stuff like that, they arent friends. They will be passerbys in your life, dont mind them! Quote:
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Ok, he might be a very charming n charismatic man but let's be realistic here.
There's no such thing as "forever fb", all good things will come to the end. The more feelings u input, the deeper u will be hurt. Cut the strings n move on. |
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Okie la, nv try = nv have a chance. TS sounds decent mah.
I like this. If not strong will jump = live short. Very logical. +1. Quote:
Esp when they dun even bother finding out what happened and jumped or stamp chop guaranteed death judgement. +1 ========= TS: Hope u r doing ok. |
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TS don't alter the term FB into something else. A lot of cases turn disasterous there are however good result but under the minority grps. Good luck ts
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Ts r u a guy?
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i talked to my fren for some times before we became FB. one of the things we talked a lot was how consumating our relationship would change our friendship. in the end we set a condition that we would leave our love with our spouses and only bring mr lust to our FB meet. yup, a pre-nup of sort cos we didnt know how the FB thingy wld turn out.
my 2 cents worth is, if die2 u want to try go ahead and explore a future with your FB, please go ahead. but be prepared that you will screw the FB relationship. at least by doing that, will put yourself out of misery and start afresh. you cant control how your FB will react to your feeling for him but you can take control of your life thereafter. TS, the ball is really in your court.
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TS it takes two hands to clap. Since you partner is willing to only snap fingers with you. Its best not to force anything because forcing anything upon him will make you lose everything.
Bottomline - You are just a FB to him! |
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Reading your posts strike a chord within me. I can feel you, and at the same time I know how much it sucks to be feeling this way right now. I think the best piece of advice I can offer you at the moment is to think through thoroughly and then make a firm decision on what you want - whether it is to stay purely as an FB, or to cut off contact from him completely. You should've known that an FB relationship is merely about sex, and any niceness he shows to you has nothing to do with love and everything to do with lust. You should also know that it is virtually impossible for him to put down all he has right now - his wife, his kids, or to put it simply, his family - for you. He has too much to lose and frankly speaking, I don't think any sane guy would do just that, UNLESS he too has fallen head over heels in love with you, which I think is highly unlikely. If you want to stay in this relationship, then you have to know your limits and boundaries. You have to curb your emotions (although I know how difficult this sounds already) because to have emotions involved in this relationship will potentially ruin it in time to come. Most importantly you should never let him know you're head over heels in love with him because that might scare him away, especially if he is very fearful about losing what he has right now. I know this sounds awful but the only thing you can do at the moment is love him silently, from a distance. And hopefully when you meet the right guy who can satisfy you emotionally, you will move on and start a family of your own with a guy who loves you and whom you love as well. You have to know that there is no future with this married man, as much as you wish for things to have turned out otherwise. All the best to you girl, I hope everything works out fine for you at the end. Stay strong and keep us updated on how things go. |
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To TS: If using brain to think, break up now and snip off that budding love. NOW. Otherwise your heart will only end up in smithereens. If using heart to think, be prepared to be smashed. It will be painful. And the pain will last you for a long time. Dragging it isnt good as well, just delays the pain I know, it's so easy to preach about it. But doing it is a whole lot more difficult. If you need someone to talk to, please include me into the talk-to list if you dont mind! Colourblind f
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Indeed, as a guy, putting myself in ur fb's shoes, i would do exactly tat too... though if i am married, i probably will stay a faithful husband/father. ESP more so when i have kids. There is indeed no future with your fb, and if really breaks up with his family, i doubt this guy is worth it aniwae, since he will prob do the same w u when he finds another.... entering a vicious marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce rs...... My 1 cents worth. |
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Hi everyone. Thanks for the replies again.
Flowbow i agree completely with what you've said, but it hurts. any niceness he shows to you has nothing to do with love and everything to do with lust Yes. so true. whatever he says or does, somehow i keep reminding myself that he may just be lying or doing something just to gain favour for more sex. (because we don't really have sex that frequently). ColourBlindx2 Sorry to hear you've been through so much pain. i hope you've moved on completely. -------- Against my more rational self, i met up with him again today and we had sex. I don't quite know how to describe my emotions. Strangely, i think i am ok. Well.... the good sex could be a factor. satiated naybe. it's almost 3.30am and i'm a bit brain dead. and i have 12 hours to think about whether to repeat it tomorrow. |
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Colourblind f
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Kambades wor!
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Re: how to make my FB fall for me?
putting in my 2 cents worth ... i am married and had a couple of FB's.
some of them are fun, better in sex and has some qualities better than my wife but i will never ever leave my wife for any of them because i know it will shatter my wife's heart if i do that ...... but if Jennifer Aniston or Angelie Jolie ask me to ... that will be a dilemma for me. |
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