A husband's letter to his wife...

[gent]

One husband wrote this to his wife. Do u think its harsh?


To: xxx

You may think its a small issue and brush it off.. It's accumulating and one day will explode badly.

U can ask what I am so unhappy about. It's pretty obvious. But since u refuse to acknowledge and think nothing about it. Let me tell u direct.

I am unhappy with the lack of or in fact non existing sex life in our more than 10 years of marriage. Sex is just for making baby. No pleasure, no sparks, at least to me, I feel no love. In the more than 10 years, I begged for sex. I felt like I am a sex bastard who always thinks of ways to bed u. I felt tt something is wrong with me because I always want to make love with u.. 9.9 times out of 10, I will be rejected! Over the years, my ego was affected. I am scare of rejection and dun know how to approach u. I am scare, really scare of rejection again and again. Is there something wrong with me? I am not sure and even thought of seeing a doctor about my sex drive. I do myself in toilet and I felt disgusted. I have a wife but yet I have to do all these.. I am not sure about the other couples and I am not bothered what other couples did. To me, sex is making love. It got to be enjoyable and really let the couple feel close and comfortable with each other. Cuddling together each time after making love and understanding each other more and deeper. We are 100% lacking in this. I guess u may not read until here and probably will brush away all my pleas...

Anyway, I think it's enough for me... Waiting and waiting and hoping that miracles will happen. I guess nothing will ever change given your character and mindset about sex.. I seriously doubt other man can wait and hope for 10 years... I want to highlight again, it's not about sex. It's about making love.. Loving each other and looking into each other's needs. It's not giving Mechical sex.. And I am not looking for sex, I am looking for love..

We are 35 and I think we still have time to rethink and consider our future... I am unhappy and unbalance. It's a fact tt our sex life is zero.

[Triple70]

Can sense the anger.
Wife sure feel threatened, and the likely response is more anger.
Letter shd be more gentle, convincing, not demanding.
Explain what is making love vs sex. Like a teacher, not an instructor.
end the letter with a question like..

" ... Shall we make love tonite? "

If wife still wooden after reading the letter, clearly she is not a team player..
Time to move on.

[gent]

Originally Posted by Triple70

Can sense the anger.
Wife sure feel threatened, and the likely response is more anger.
Letter shd be more gentle, convincing, not demanding.
Explain what is making love vs sex. Like a teacher, not an instructor.
end the letter with a question like..

" ... Shall we make love tonite? "

If wife still wooden after reading the letter, clearly she is not a team player..
Time to move on.

Good point. Had the same thoughts.. Will enlighten the husband accordingly..

[Ayakata]

saw the spreadsheet that the husband made for the reasons of rejecting sex from the wife haha....
dono if it's the same thing from this post....

maybe some wives out there should make a spreadsheet too 😂

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by Triple70

Can sense the anger.
Wife sure feel threatened, and the likely response is more anger.
Letter shd be more gentle, convincing, not demanding.
Explain what is making love vs sex. Like a teacher, not an instructor.
end the letter with a question like..

" ... Shall we make love tonite? "

If wife still wooden after reading the letter, clearly she is not a team player..
Time to move on.

+1 a lot of anger from the author but can't blame him for 10yrs of pant up. However, women are from Venus!

[discordpiggy]

can someone please enlighten me?!

out of curiosity, what is the criteria for men choosing a wife in SG? her looks? 36C? 40E? her qualifications? her status?

end up i read a lot of sbf bros, married but usually not being service or received sufficient amount of sex to sextisfy them on daily or weekly basis.

i am sure there are those women who are high sex drive but only 32A nia and totally not pretty yet super nymphomaniac who are usually NOT noticeable by guys. or rather guys will not ever take a second look at them because they are not pretty at all, so these super nymphomaniacs are now left on the shelves collecting dust...

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

+1 a lot of anger from the author but can't blame him for 10yrs of pant up. However, women are from Venus!

some women just do not or will not make an effort to understand their men. they emphasize too much on themselves and their wants.

[gent]

Drink kopi with the husband last night cos he says cannot take it and send the letter already...

Wait to see if any respond from the wife...

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by gent

Drink kopi with the husband last night cos he says cannot take it and send the letter already...

Wait to see if any respond from the wife...

Hong gan liao lor...
Prepare for divorce and WC later... Plus lagi no need sex liao!


If sex (make love) is the problem... Just pay $$ find another with fake GFE... No need so troublesome write letter right?

[gent]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

Hong gan liao lor...
Prepare for divorce and WC later... Plus lagi no need sex liao!


If sex (make love) is the problem... Just pay $$ find another with fake GFE... No need so troublesome write letter right?

He quite persistent to try. Cannot stop him.. Since waited for 10 years liao.. No harm giving a last try... I also curious what will be the outcome...

[Greendevil]

the wordings and logic is not harsh. it just that the message was not deliver correctly; it should not put in letter, such thing should trash it out

[PeteTsang69]

bro gent....

pls update us what happened ... i was/am in same boat ... am curious what is wife reaction ...

i didn't write a letter ... suggested we go talk to counsellor a few times ..but never got reply yes...just brushed off and change topic...

i feel the guy's frustration ...basic need unfulifilled...

i believe solution lies here ...got this video from another thread here ...part one is good ...i am not a christian ..but this guy speaks the truth...cheers

[ChinHo]

Hi TS

I was shock to know that your friend sent this letter to wife. He must be desperate to make love.

[maxsee]

If divorce must pay a lot of alimony each month leh...worth it boh....

[hotpen]

Originally Posted by maxsee

If divorce must pay a lot of alimony each month leh...worth it boh....

Alimony $ convert to FL $ woots.. lol